Wednesday, March 11, 2009

OUCH! That hurts......

Just heard from my social worker that or profile has been now shown 7 times and we have not been picked. No feedback either. Now that is like a punch in the stomach. What gives Lord?

25 comments:

Kristi said...

Chin up ~ maybe the child God has picked for you is with the 8th birthmother who will review your file!

Michelle said...

I'm sorry. That would upset me too.

I think maybe it has to do more with the number of people wanting to adopt versus the amount of babies being put up for adoption than something in your profile. I'm sure your profile is wonderful!

I will say a prayer for you guys.

Kim K. said...

I'm hopeful that this trend won't continue. Chin up and know that I'll say a few prayers for you.

Rach@In His Hands said...

Oh, friend, I'm sure this is such a hard time. Take comfort in the Lord's special plan for you! I'm praying...

momwithfaithandhope said...

We briefly considered domestic adoption as well. I wish I had more experience with the number of times a file is reviewed, but I don't. So, going back to your question. . .I think God has a special baby in mind for you, and if that first, second, third, or seventh birth mom had selected your family, the chances of you being connected with the child God intended would have been missed. Doesn't make the sting of it go away, does it?! So, on the slightly comical side of things, maybe your Lucy is so darn beatiful the birth mom is afraid their bio baby won't measure up to her cuteness! She is stunning. No average kiddo. Saying a prayer for you and may He guide "THE" birthmother to your profile very, very soon.

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

I know it is so hard and I wish I had something profound to say...

Hang in there and keep the faith...it will happen.

Lisa

Marla said...

Good things come to those who wait and wait...
I'll keep you in my prayers.

Kim said...

It must not be time yet, it will happen :)

Carrie said...

sorry I have been missing it was MJ gotcha and adoption day this week and her birthday is tuesday I have just been, sad! I promiss to get wiht you by the weekend! I miss talking to ya too! sorry about your wait-God has that prefect child for you, I know it!

Melba said...

I feel your pain on this! We have been shown 5 times, not been picked, and received very little feedback. It is so frustrating and discouraging! Our SW always says "people choose people like them" and tells us someone will eventually see something in us that reminds them of themselves. Sometimes it just doesn't feel like this will ever actually happen.

Hang in there...you are not alone!

Melba

*Overflowing* said...

Hang in there my friend...our daughter's bmom saw our profile and didn't officially select until SIX long weeks later. Our agency wanted her to be a tad bit closer to delivery before choosing a family...soooo, you never know...one of these bmom's may have already chosen you but needs to wait just a little longer! Hugs...I'm serious when I say the "call" will come when you least expect it!!! And I have a feeling it will be very soon ;)

Beth in NC said...

No way -- this is not rejection. Your child isn't here yet. I know from our own experience that God has your child chosen before he/she was even formed.

The waiting is hard, I know.

I look forward to reading about your new child. It will happen.

Marian said...

Dear Friend, I understand your anxiousness & and I'm praying for God's peace. It was for that reason that we asked our SW not to tell us when they had given our profile out to be looked at. I just couldn't take knowing the number of times we were passed over...something to consider. And "overflowing" is right, the call will come when you least expect it! God has it all under control...hang in there!

a little leprechaun said...

Hang in there. I know it's hard. I'm so sorry.

Sending you

(((BIG HUGS)))

God's Girl said...

I believe that God does things in our hearts in the 'waiting' that boosts our faith and trust in the Lord like no other time in our lives.

I will be praying for you! Remember, God is not slow about His promises. He is faithful to accomplish a good work in you and in your family!

Love to you!!!

Natalie said...

Hugs to you Jill... I'm thinking about you!

mamanugget said...

Hi, you visited and commented on my blog and asked if our girls are from the same SWI and they are! :-)We're waiting to go pick up our little HengFeng princess now!

Your daughter is such a cutie and oh my how she has blossomed in your family. Surely another child (or two or three) will be coming into your lives when the time is just right. Sending hugs your way.

Nancy said...

It is so hard to know what is going through a birthparent's mind. But I'm sure when the right one comes along, she'll know and pick you right away.

Teresa said...

BTDT and I'm sorry. I know how much it hurts.

Jan said...

Hang in there, my friend. Things ALWAYS have a way of working out. Love and hugs,
Jan

Jennifer said...

I would be upset too but try to keep the faith.

You will get the baby that was meant for you!

Jen

The Frost Family said...

I will be keeping you in my prayers. Just like with our daughters, we waited so long, because He was waiting for ours to come along. The same thing with your son...when he's ready to come home, God will let you know! Hugs to you, Jill!

Paula said...

Well, from my experience I think its better not to ask. I asked in the beginning and would get bummed too. I would always think whats wrong with us. I made a decison not to ask and then it was kind of like out of sight out of mind.

Debbie B said...

Ugh! So sorry to hear that. I know it's hard. Hope you get some more encouraging news soon.

Jonni said...

You know what Jill, I have a very good feeling it is going to happen shortly, very shortly. Trust me, I have good hunches.

Plus, who could not pick you guys? You are awesome.

Hugs,
Jonni